Things You Should Ask to Your Online Date Before You Meet

When using online dating it is more difficult to get initial impressions of people because there's no face to face contact at first. The mannerisms and body language that tell so much about a person can't be seen. Hence, it is extremely important to know which questions to ask so that the person can get a better sense of who the other person is on the other side of the virtual screen. Here are some of the questions that one should ask to his or her online date in order to assess the personality and the attitude of the other person.

These questions are specifically inclined to provide the necessary information regarding an individual's personal conviction on certain matters and his or her own preferences on things. Those who are involved in online dating just have to keep in mind that when asking these questions, they should make it appear very natural so that they will not sound like they are being confrontational. In addition, those who will ask these questions should be sure that they are also prepared to answer the same.

1. What are you looking for in a guy/girl?
With this question, an individual can get hold of the qualities that the other person is looking for in a companion.

2. What do you think is the major error that people make when online dating for the first time?
This question will illustrate some idea about how the other person views the opposite sex. In this way, one could get an insight on the attitude of the other person and his or her personal beliefs on some important matters like dating and relationships.

3. What is your view on online dating services?
Through this question, a person will be able to know if the other person had some serious negative experience concerning online dating or the other way around. In addition, through the answers of the other person, one could guess if he or she is still willing to consider online dating or not.

4. What is a really successful relationship?
One could get a good view on how the other person values relationship. It would be better to hear the other person provide an answer regarding how the two persons who are involved in the relationship should work together as they grow and have a better sense of personality.

5. Did you fail on your last relationship?
Most people would certainly blame the other person in the relationship. Others blame their selves too much. It would be better to hear some answers like they (the couple) equally share the blame and that it is just time to part ways. The point in asking these questions is to establish a solid foundation on the kind of personality and attitude the other person has. It is when keeping the communication line open that matters most.

The problem with a lot of people involved in online dating is that most of them do not have any idea how to carry the conversation and how to keep the lines burning. They do not know what questions to ask and how to assess the answers that they get. Boiled down, asking some reliable questions will give the person an edge over a lot of things. Hence, he or she will be able to assert that when the time comes that they have to meet personally, the concerned person will be ready to face his or her online date.

The Problem With Online Dating

One of the main problems with online dating is the extensive selection that is available. With so many singles we find ourselves getting caught up and involved with so many of them. We would save a lot of time and emotions by being more selective. That way we are available for the Singles that fit our "must have" list.

Online dating is not like your local bar and grille where you may have a selection of 7-10 eligible singles on a good night! Online your choices are endless! If you don't find who you want on one site? You just move onto the next singles site. Start with your list of must haves and begin shopping! Take your time...the Singles aren't going anywhere!

Another problem with online dating, you can never be sure the photo of the person is really the person you are corresponding with! But I think that is a small risk for the quantity of singles you will have access to. But look at it from the point of view. The singles you meet in public could be giving you the wrong name, the wrong age; their current relationship status could be a lie. So, if someone is going to lie, they are a liar. Whether online or off...a liar is a liar! That is the reason I ask so many questions. If that offends some of the singles? Too Bad! I have a right to know what I am dealing with from the very beginning. If the single you are giving the "Third degree" to has been online dating for any length of time, they will understand your skepticism. If not...oh well...Next please!!?

The Reasons Why Online Dating Works

We probably all know why online dating doesn’t work, but I want to let you know the reasons online dating does work.

The main reason online dating works is because of the vast number of eligible Singles that are online. If you can’t find what you want on one site, you simply move on to the next site.

If you are out “clubbing” you will have a very limited number of Singles to choose from. While online, there are literally millions of singles!

Another reason online dating works is we are able to totally “drop out” of the picture if we are being pursued by someone we have no interest in.

Unfortunately, if we are being pursued offline, using a club as an example, we can be followed from the bar to the dance floor to a table even all of the way to the parking lot!

But online, we can simply choose to stop responding! If the pursuit turns into harassment and stalking, we can have the site administrator totally block them!

Another reason online dating works is that we can “qualify” a person before deciding whether or not we want to get to know them better. While offline we can ask a lot of questions and if we don’t like the answers we are rarely rude enough to look someone in the face and say; “thanks for your interest, but I am not interested in you. Bye...”

I find that online dating has a lot of “safety features” that work in the favor of the Singles! You just have to know what these “safety features” are and how to use them!

An article from: http://www.articlecity.com/articles/relationships/article_1646.shtml
by: Vivian Johnson