Signs that both of you will click

Say, for example, you meet someone online or maybe in text. This person seems to be very interesting but you're still having second thoughts. Should you go on a date? Will the two of you be in sync? You're not just sure whether you have enough information to go on...

Most of us would probably encounter this type of situation. What should we do then? First, we need to find enough information about the person we're interested with. Consider this, those emails or text messages are actually loaded with information that can help you decide whether you should go on that first date. You just have to know how to read the signs. Here, are some of the clues that I've read on different articles and books. These clues will help you decide whether your potential date deserves a chance or if you should move on to those other interesting people turning up in your search results.

The positive signs

No.1: The other person keeps the momentum going
With so much going on in our busy lives, it's easy to get distracted or lose interest. That's why it's so refreshing to make contact with someone who actually returns emails, calls when promised, and keeps his or her word. "When it comes to those first interactions, consistency is huge," says Yvonne Thomas, Los Angeles-based psychologist, specializing in relationships and self-esteem (www.yvonnethomasphd.com). "A man or woman who maintains the connection with you and keeps the momentum going until you meet is going to be reliable, considerate, and responsible."

No.2: The other person knows the value of a phone call
When you've been chatting with someone online, it often feels easiest just to ask him or her out via keypad. But the person who calls you to chat, or asks you out over the phone, rather than by email or text, is probably mature enough to understand that some traditional courting rules should still apply. "Rather than fall back on lazy dating habits, a person who phones sees the value in treating others with respect," explains David Wygant, dating expert on www.davidwygant.com. "Also, just the fact that a person is calling indicates that he or she wants to get to know you better" and have a better sense of who you are, what you sound like... and what makes you tick.

No.3: This person pays attention to details
Between the puplover212s and the dirtydog415s out there, it's tough to keep track of all the people you're talking to online. So isn't it nice when someone you've been chatting with is able to reference in a later conversation your love of Cap'n Crunch or old movies? "When a person remembers the things you've spoken about, it shows that he or she has been listening and paying attention to you," says Thomas. "Not only does it indicate interest, but it's also a sign of someone who will be a giving partner." Even if you don't think he or she is your physical type or worry that you two don't have enough in common, give it a chance. There's some good stuff there!

And the not-so-positive signs

No.1: Your date keeps rescheduling
Hey, we're all busy, but there's no excuse for canceling a date more than once. "If someone keeps pushing the date off, then it may indicate a lack of certainty he or she is going to be attracted to you and is clearly not all that psyched about meeting you," warns Wygant. "You should meet within a week of contact, otherwise, you're not high on that person's list of people to date." Obviously, some things are unavoidable; like if he is going away on vacation or one of her children got sick, but in general, if someone can't stick to a date, it's not worth the trouble.

No.2: Being too eager
While you obviously want a potential mate to show interest, a man or woman who is too pushy about meeting you can be a little creepy. "Some people force intimacy and relationships really quickly," says Thomas. "A person who wants to meet the very next day, gives a lot of compliments, or asks too many personal questions before the first date may be needy." Or caught up in the fantasy of who someone thinks you are and the great relationship you two are bound to have. Keep in mind that those people who get hot and heavy right away tend to fizzle out just as fast. If you do decide to date this kind of person, be sure to maintain some boundaries. Know that you don't have to go along with everything the person suggests just because you don't want to hurt his or her feelings.

No.3: Evading questions
During your initial email exchanges, you obviously don't want to bombard the other person with questions. Still, you should be able to get some basic queries answered. "If you're asking straightforward, not-too-personal things, like if he or she lives alone, has children, or what kind of work your date does, and that person keeps ignoring the questions, that's a really bad sign," warns Bev Bacon, author of Meet Me, Don't Delete Me. "It's not like he or she didn't see your question, rather, is avoiding answering it, which shows that this person may be closed-off and secretive, or possibly hiding something." You'll save yourself time, energy and possibly some heartache if you recognize the signs before you get in too deep.

Article courtesy of Happen magazine
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