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Thursday, October 2, 2008

Learning "The Art" of Being Thankful

Gratitude is a powerful ally. If you're not sure how this could be true, think about this statement: whatever you put into something, you get in return. If you show constant appreciation and thankfulness to someone or some area of your life, you'll get that same appreciation and thankfulness in return. Imagine how connected you would feel if your partner took every opportunity to express their thankfulness for having you in their life and for each little thing you did. It would show that they truly value you, know what is going on in your life and care enough to take the time to mention it to you. Now, imagine how connected you would both feel, if you also showed your gratitude in return. Applying gratitude in your relationship will help you both establish a deep sense of connection and togetherness that you may never have felt before, even when you first met.

This tip will help you learn the art of being thankful. Once you genuinely apply these actions to your relationship, you will begin to discover a positive change and a real sense of happiness about being together.

Daily Tasks

* Find one reason why you feel your life is better because you are with your partner. Write it down on an index card or a greeting card in this format: I am so thankful for you because…

* Anytime your partner does something for you or your family, thank them.

Weekly Tasks

* Write a list of all the things you have to be thankful for about your partner and your life. Each week focus on one item on your list. In a journal write about how grateful you are and the details about how it has helped you.

* Pick one thing to do for your partner each week. Don't let them know you are doing it beforehand. It should be a surprise. After you complete the task, make sure to let them know you did it to show your appreciation for everything they do for you.

Monday, September 29, 2008

Spending "Quality Time" to your partner

How often do you find yourself saying you wish you had more time with your partner? I don't mean time sitting in a car together, going grocery shopping or eating together. What about time talking and sharing ideas, sharing jokes or just being together in an atmosphere that is "couple" friendly? If it's been a while then this love task may be your perfect remedy!

Once you've both agreed that quality time is something you could both benefit from, you'll need to decide on how to go about arranging this special time.

One of our favorite ways to create couple time is through a designated activity night. For example, some couples enjoy a weekly game night or movie night. On a certain day each week they play their favorite board or video games or watch the latest new movies. This could be expanded to a cooking night, puzzle night or any other interest you both share.

Another way to share couple time is to have each person alternately plan something to do. For example, one week your partner might plan to have a picnic in the park. The next week, you might plan to watch the sunset over a shared bottle of wine.

Remember, this time is YOUR time. It needs to be special to you both. For maximum benefit, your time together should be uninterrupted, at least two hours and at a time you both can agree on.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

My Affiliates (Link Exchange)

This is My Affiliates link exchange. If you're interested to exchange links with me then all you have to do is inform me. You may post your comment here or post a shout out in the chat box. Add me in your blog list and I'll add you as soon as possible. Pretty easy right? So what are we waiting for, let's start exchanging links! :)

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Arnie's Life - It's about life and living in Davao.

Loving More - It's about life and discoveries related with the author's life.

Heart2Heart Talk - An interesting blog about love and relationship.

Sunday, September 21, 2008

How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy

With all of the advice out there on how to rebuild your relationship, why not look at tips to keep your already healthy relationship in tact? After all, prevention is more important than cure right? Preventing problems from happening would be more practical than solving them. There are plenty of things that you should avoid in order to make your relationship with your wife or girlfriend from unnecessary miscommunication as well as arguments. In fact, these tips can help you in every relationship that you have - read on.

DON'T be right all the time

There's nothing more frustrating in a relationship than a person who insists that they are always right. No one is right all of the time, and it's time that you realized that. It takes a much stronger person to admit that they were wrong than it is for someone to not admit that they may have made a mistake. Don't be the know it all.

DON'T assume anything

When you start to assume something, you start to chip away at the truth. IF you want to know about something, the other person is going to have to tell you what you need to know. Assuming that someone feels a certain way or that they want you to do a certain thing is only going to set you up for possible problems. Assuming is really just guessing.

DON'T put your priorities first

While you both want to have your needs and wants addressed, when you try to focus more on your own needs than your partner's needs, you will be seen as selfish and uncaring. A relationship means that you are putting someone else's needs before your own, and in doing so, allowing your needs to be fulfilled as well. Seek out their needs to see how you can compromise to make both of you happy.

DON'T know the other person better than they know themselves

If you've ever been in a fight or a discussion when another person has claimed to know what you want, doesn't that feel upsetting? You want to avoid doggedly trying to prove that you know more about the other person than they do - because that just isn't the case. Take the time to consider their feelings and thoughts when they tell them to you. To not let them have a say is to make the conversation one sided.

DON'T refuse to apologize

You will have something that you need to apologize for at some point, even if you don't think that it's a big deal. When you allow your partner to hear that you are sorry about something, you allow them to see that you are willing to move past something in order to have a healthier relationship. And even if you don't think that you are wrong, apologizing is a great way to start fixing the situation instead of making it worse.

DON'T interrupt them

When you're trying to make a point, you might feel that your words are more important than theirs, but this is not helpful. If you are interrupting what someone else is saying all the time, two things happen: one, you're not hearing what they are saying, and two, you are showing that your opinions are more important than theirs. Instead, stop yourself and make a mental note to bring up your point when they are finished.

DON'T rub it in

If you do find out that you are right about something, you don't want to constantly rub the fact in long after the discussion is over. Your relationship isn't about someone being right; it's about the two of you being happy. If you're right, you're right, but then you need to move on. Your partner will not appreciate being reminded that they were wrong.

DON'T make promises you can't keep

You aren't going to be perfect, but when someone is counting on you to help maintain a good relationship; you need to be able to hold up your part of the bargain. This means that you need to be able to make promises that you can keep. And when you do make a promise to someone, they need to be able to expect that you will follow through - every time. If you can't make a promise, then let them know that you will try your hardest, but that you can not promise it. This allows them to have realistic expectations of you.

No relationship is perfect, but there are plenty of ways that you can keep it from becoming unhealthy. :)

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Give Your Partner a Compliment

You don't have to pay a penny in giving a compliment but you'll surely agree that it is a beautiful thing! :) It has the ability to make our hearts shine from the inside. In addition to letting us know we're on the right track with something, it also communicates that someone noticed. This can be very encouraging, especially when given by our partner.

Now, how should you start giving compliments to your partner? Well, the only key to giving a compliment is by showing appreciation, even on simple things. You should always find ways to take a few minutes to notice what your partner is doing right and let them know. Here's how to do that...

The Daily Task

Look for one thing each day that your partner has done or handled well. Make sure to make a comment on it. For example, "I noticed how well our son works with you doing his homework. Nice job!" or "You really do a great job helping with the outside chores. I really appreciate the extra effort you give."

Your Weekly Tasks

Take note of a few routine cycles your partner does throughout the week. Leave a note where they would usually do the task telling them how well they do it.

Each day make some comment on their appearance or how you feel about them. For example, "You look great today." "That cologne smells wonderful." "You're sexy!"

If you have time, write them a letter or a note inside of a card sharing the things you appreciate and feel lucky for. Mail it or leave it in a spot they will find and can be read privately.

Friday, September 12, 2008

Your just a kiss away...

Looking to pucker up with the one you love? Engaging your sense of smell might be a good idea... New research claims finding a perfect partner could have more to do with their subtle odour than their personality, looks or wealth. Reasearch at Cardiff University, Wales, suggests smell has direct access to the primitive regions of the brain concerned with the mood and memory and can activate memories.

"When you kiss somebody, you bring your nose into contact with those parts of the skin secreting compounds," says research leader Tim Jacob. So when you lock lips with someone special, savor the smell as well as the moment... :)

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

How to Ask Your Friend Out for a Date (part 3)

There are only two things that might happen when you’re asking your friend for a date... The offer may be rejected or accepted. Now, how should you react in those situations?

What to Do if Your Offer is Rejected

Your offer may be refused. Remember that the date is being rejected and you. Resist the temptation to take it personally. Your friendship will be different afterwards, but so what? Your friendship is being changed and made different every day. It is called growth. Continue to value the qualities in your friend that attracted you to him/her in the first place. However, remember that you do not have any claim on that person other than a great friendship.

What to if Your Offer is Accepted

Plan a great date and, if all goes well, ask for another one! Again, expect that your friendship will change as the element of romance is added. Continue to communicate with one another and strengthen your friendship. That way, if you find in time that the romantic aspect isn't working out after all, a close friendship will remain. And if everything does work out, you may someday find yourself buying those cheesy wedding invitations.