How to ask for a Date – part 2

So, you want to ask for a date using other methods. Well, here are some of the tips that might be useful.

Letters

Some things never change. Whether it be high school, college or the workplace, passing notes will forever be with us, because boredom will forever be with us too. And you can use letters to your advantage. Consider this scenario:

It's time for the dreaded quarterly report on the company's financial situation. Mr. Boring (otherwise known as your boss) is bitching about how the company needs to learn how to save on paper clips and staples. You look over your left, your office buddy is pretending to be engrossed with his palmtop but he's actually playing minesweeper by himself. To your right is that cute girl you've been dying to go out with, tapping her pencil with one hand while the other cradles her face from landing on the table and falling asleep. Make your move!

Scribble a little note like, "What do you think the boss will do if I stand up and start bending paper clips out of shape?" Pass it to her and wait for a response. If she giggles and scribbles something and passes it back to you, you can strut your way down easy street. If she raises an eyebrow and looks at you from head to toe, better luck next time.

So how do you do it? How do you break the ice and ask for a date with a letter? By using the world's best aphrodisiac; otherwise known as humor, of course!

Through friends

Depending on what kind of friends you have, searching for a good date through them can either be a great idea, or one doomed to failure from the very beginning. Friends know who you'll click with, and who you're attracted to physically and intellectually. They'll weed out the bad apples from the very beginning, thereby saving everyone time and cash.

Another great reason for having friends set you up with someone is how they can build you up. They'll know what your potential date wants to hear, and edit out what they know your date doesn't. Just for you, they'll tell him/her what a great singing voice you have and conveniently forget to mention you're wanted by the FBI. However, if your friends don't know you as well as you think they should, it would be a better idea to find a date elsewhere.

Up Front

It takes a certain amount of mettle for you to ask someone out face to face. If you're an average Joe or Joanna, chances are the usual suspects - nerves, will be dodging you. Sweaty palms, stuttering, a sudden verbal deficiency, and a mysterious fascination with the ground that keeps your eyes trained downward.

And then of course there are some of us who don't want to be asked face to face. Others feel it puts the pressure on them to say yes, others are scandalized by forwardness.

Before you work up the nerve or the savvy to date someone using this method, make sure he/she is neither. Because if you're wrong, the worst thing that can happen is a slap in the face or the image of her or his back running away from you in helter-skelter.

Ask a good friend of the person, it's the safest way to go. It also lets you see for yourself what your chances are. If the friend says, "Go! Go!" it means your potential date has it for you too. If however, the friend says, "No! No!" it might be good to re-evaluate the situation and save your self-esteem some pain.

So what's the upside, you may ask. Well, there are those who find this method very, very attractive and sexy. It says about a person, "I'm confident, self-assured and capable." Which is why, you might want for re-consider your game plan and use a different formula. But hey, who knows. He/she might find your nervousness cute, but I wouldn't bet on it.